Let’s catch up, shall we? Listen, self-love is.. messy, exhausting, and complicated but also so beautiful, freeing, and rewarding. But like I said in part I., it remains a journey. So, within that journey more often than not we could use some help. That help could be anything. Maybe you need a vacation to unwind, talk to a friend, do some retail therapy, or like me, do actual therapy.
I can be, okay I am a stubborn person. I always try to figure out things I don’t understand by myself. Asking for help is not an option, because that would mean I couldn’t do it by myself. But why should that be a bad thing? Exactly. Admitting I could use some help sometimes took some time so you can imagine it took even longer when I had to ask for help with my mental health. Because asking for help would mean admitting something is wrong. Asking for help with a work issue or even changing a light bulb is one thing, but my mental health? Ugh.
Mental health problems don’t define who you are. They are something you experience. You walk in the rain and you feel the rain, but, importantly, you are not the rain. – Matt Haig
I finally put my pride aside and decided to talk to someone. Mostly because I reached a point where I realized I really needed help. And I realized that 1. admitting I need help doesn’t mean something is wrong, it simply means, I need help; 2. it’s okay if I can’t do everything by myself and lastly 3. everyone needs help at some point.
Unfortunately, it’s hard to find a good therapist. And after 3 sessions I realized this therapist wasn’t the right therapist for me. Nevertheless, I’m finally understanding and accepting that it’s okay to ask for help. Hell, it’s necessary.