Things I've Learned In My 20s
I still have about 2 more years before I turn 30, but that doesn’t stop me from sharing the things I’ve learned up until now. I’ll probably divide this post into two separate ones, so make sure to sign up for the new post notifications on the homepage! 🤗
1. Get/Be Healthy.
Whether you’re overweight or not. It’s the best/right time to start working on your health. Soon you’ll be old and telling yourself you should’ve started when you were younger. So here I am, reminding you to start now. You don’t have to become vegan or follow a low-calorie diet. Just go to the gym a few times a week and watch what you eat. Snack less (unless it’s healthy), stop drinking sodas, drink more water, get enough sleep, you know the basics. 💪🏽
2. Feeling Lost and It’s Okay.
I always thought that you should have life figured out by the time you leave school. Or even before that. Because it’s expected of you to know what you want to be when you grow up because that’s what you’re going to study. Let’s say you choose to study to become a doctor, but you end up becoming a lawyer. Exactly, it makes no sense and also it makes finding a job as a lawyer very hard. So you have to know what you want to do because you’re committing to this. Of course, you can study whatever you want and find a job as something completely different, but again, it makes things very hard. I don’t know what I want to be when I “grow” up. I’m 28 now. So you can imagine how lost I felt when I saw people I went to school with following the “typical” paths of life. However, I realize now, sometimes you have to create your own path and trust that you’ll end up where you were meant to be. 🙌🏽
3. No One Cares, But You.
This is/was particularly difficult for me, because of my anxiety. I am constantly thinking about what people might think if I say certain things, dress a certain way, act a certain way and so on. And let me tell you; that shit is exhausting. Especially when you find out that most people don’t even care. Sure, some people always like to judge, but who cares? And why should you care? If the things that you’re doing are making you happy, do it! I’m trying to apply this to my life every day and trust me when I say, it makes a lot of things a lot easier. 😎
4. Family Isn’t Everything.
When you grow up you’re probably told that family is everything. And that you should keep your family close and whatnot. I learned that this is not true. You can have friends that are much closer to you and mean much more than your family ever will. You have to choose your own people and stop thinking that just because you’re related means you have to hang out or even talk. I stopped talking to someone which some people may consider close to me. However, I made this decision because it was in my best interest. Whether we’re related or not, if you’re toxic I can’t have you in my life.
5. It’s Hard To Make New Friends.
Seriously, where do people find new friends? I still wonder this every day. I try to make friends at work, but somehow it’s not the same as the childhood friendships that I still have. Maybe it’s because I haven’t known them for as long or because they don’t know me as well. But this shit sucks. I even joined some Meetup groups, but I haven’t found the courage to actually go to one. I need help. Help me. Please.
There are so many other things that I’ve learned, but it’s hard to put it all into one post. So as I said at the beginning of this post, I’ll probably do another post or maybe even two more. Stay tuned! 🙋🏽♀️